You might think you know what you want in your life but usually people just have vague ideas and concepts drifting around in thier minds. We struggle with the specifics. Sometimes this is because we’re scared to get too attached to a particular idea and we’re afriad of disappointment. Or we’re so busy with the day to day that we don’t stop to consider the specifics.
Think of your life like my job as a medevac helicopter pilot. When you need medical attention you don’t want your medevac pilot meandering in a happy-go-lucky direction towards you, you want them to take the most direct route possible. You are the pilot of your life. Don’t fly aimlessly, actively choose your destination and the route you’ll take to get there. Then enjoy the view and the ride along the way.
As Yogi Bera said:
Creating Your Big Life Means Knowing What You Want
A huge part of creating your Big Life is knowing what that looks like. Before you can take action on your dreams, you need to know what’s important to you, what you value, and which direction you want to be going.
One of my Big Life goals is to create a location independent lifestyle. This isn’t about living out of a suitcase (though I’m hoping for plenty of travel) but about the ability to set my own schedule. For me, setting my schedule = freedom. Being able to do what I want, when I want, with the people I want is my definition of a Big Life.
But that might not resonate with you. There is no “right” way. You get to decide. Sometimes this is easier said than done.
What if I don’t know what I want?
Often I work with clients who have a feeling of, “Is this all there is?” or “I know I’m meant to be doing more important things” or “I don’t feel like I’m being my true self.”
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It’s as if they’ve been putting their dreams on hold for so long, allowing them to gather dust in a corner of their mind, they can’t even remember what they are or where they put them.
Articulating your beliefs bridges the gap between good intentions and knowing the specifics of what you want to create. It’ll rekindle your passion for life, dust off your long forgotten dreams and help you design new ones.
Get Clear on Your Beliefs
One way to get clear on your core beliefs is by crafting your creed. A creed is a code of principles, or “this I know is true” statements that resonate with your soul.
You don’t have to have a fancy graphic (I found a designer on Elance to help me make mine). It isn’t about the final product. It is about getting clear on what matters to you. Clarity = Power.
Your Turn: Craft Your “This I Believe” Creed
Write down the things you feel are important. What do you believe in? What would you pass along as guiding principles to others?What wisdom would you want your children to know? What really matters? What would you want to be known for at your funeral?What would you tell your best friend when they are feeling down or discouraged? Often we are able to give our friends really good advice but we have trouble giving (or taking) that same advice to ourselves, particularly when we are in the midst of something upsetting and our reactive brain takes over. Don’t worry about getting it “right”. Jot down ideas as they come to you.
2. Gather Inspiration.
Now that you’ve done some of your own brainstorming, take a look at what others have done and add to your list. Here is a google search of images to inspire you. Inspiration is contagious. It’s okay to use other people’s wording if it rings true for you.
3. Review your list.
Take some time between your brainstorming session and your review session. Go for a walk. Have some tea. Sleep on it. Read over your list. Delete anything that sort of feels so-so. Keep everything that is a resounding “yes!” in your gut. Don’t keep anything that you feel “should” be there. A creed is a living document, a snapshot in time about where you are right now in your life. It will change. Take a little more time. More walks. More tea. Then review your beliefs again. There are lots of things I believe that aren’t on my creed. I only kept the things that made me feel energized and excited.
4. Post your principles.
We know that writing things down and putting them where we see them multiple times a day yields more results than if you just file someting away in a drawer. By posting your beliefs, you’ll know when you aren’t living in alignment with them. You’ll gain inspiration when you’re feeling down. I’ve put mine on my bathroom wall. I love that a particular phrase jumps out at me each time I look at the poster.
5. Share with others.
There is no better way to hold yourself accountable than by sharing your beliefs with others. Your friends and family can provide a gentle nudge when they see you getting off track. You can’t hide and play small when you’ve shared your beliefs. Feeling shy with your family and friends? Share them here! We’re commited to leading a life we love and doing work that matters. These are your people. This is your tribe. Our community is a safe place for you.
The first step to creating a life you love is knowing what you believe. We think we know but until we actually write our beliefs down they are just vague notions in our mind. Once you are clear on your beliefs your dreams will start emerging. You’ll know where you want to be going. And knowing where you want to go is the hardest part of finding a way to get there.
What are a few of your core beliefs? Share in the comments.