After tragedy strikes you are forced to create a “new normal.”
When my Dad passed away, I was consumed by grief. I hurt physically. All the time. Now the big sucking hole in my chest has shriveled to a constant seep. I’m adjusting. Some days all I’m doing is surviving. Other days I’m thriving.
Events on the life stress scale force us to create a new normal- divorces, marriages, new jobs, birth of child- they all require radical adjustments. As an EMS Helicopter pilot, I frequently see my patients thrust into a new normal.
Jim Rohn, businessman and motivational speaker says:
You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
We spend most of our time with our friends, family and coworkers. But think about it more specifically- who at work are you spending the most time with? Which family members? Which friends? Which ones bring you down? Who raises you up?
Want to change your life? Change how you spend your time.
Sometimes this will mean changing your job, your city, your life. But what if you don’t want to take a rototiller to your life? You don’t need to be radical. Just be deliberate.
- Want to be more optimistic? Invite an optimistic person to lunch.
- Want to be healthier? Hang out with healthier people.
- What to be more inspired? Find some one that inspires you.
Spending time online can have us withdraw from poeple- but it can also be a great source of connection. You can find your “tribe” online. They’re out there. Create community.
Create Your New Normal
- Identify the AAA people in your life. These are the people that inspire, support, encourage and foster your dreams. If you don’t have any AAA people in your life, connect online.
- Carve out time for AAA people. Make a phone call, send an email, or schedule lunch with these people. Watch an episode of the Good Life Project. I know you’re busy- but this is your life. The energy boost from inspirational people will help you get those “to-do” list items checked off quickly.
- Identify those that hinder you. These are “Debbie Downers” or “Pessimistic Pauls” in your life. Minimize the time you spend with them. Find ways to excuse yourself from the conversation. Make plans with AAA friends so you can legitimately say, “I’m sorry I can’t join you.” They may not like it. You’ll both be okay.
- Plan ahead. When you’ve got an event that requires time with a Debbie Downer or a Pessimistic Paul, counterbalance it with AAA time.
What do you want to be a part of your new normal? Share in the comments.